Child Sex Abuse Parent's Proactive Approach The facts scream that the child sex abuse cases reported have risen from 5557 in 2011 to 8892 in 2015 which means 60% increase in period of 4 years which is only tip of the iceberg owing to the stigma attached to it whereby maximum cases go unreported.
The situation is worse and propels us to find a way to take some precautions at our end .. A little proactive approach here and there is what surely is the need of the hour- Deep bond of trust & open communication is required between you and your child making him or her aware about the existing plight. According to psychologists one must do the following to develop deep bonds:
Touching your child in anyway like ( hugging,patting, keeping hand on head, holding hand, kissing) works wonders more than any words can do. The child feels loved & secured & feels that you are his or her saviour.
While communicating with your child make sure you make eye contact with him, not does it only lead him to become confident but it also helps them to know that you pay attention to their words, that they are important, and you can wait till they struggle with their words and finish their sentences and can pour their heart out to you. It requires patience but when you win their trust, half the battle is won.
Most of the time we ask our child " Is school going fine?" the reply to which is mostly a stereotypical "yes". Explore more and ask open ended questions like " How is your school going on?" "How is your new class, what did you do?" " How are you finding your new instructor"?" How is the guy who sits next to you?" And if it is followed by one word answer which usually could be a scenario with a shy /reticent child, ask him/her to elaborate or ask more questions. Make it his/her habit that everyday they get habitual of sharing innumerable details with you, and a day will come when you don't have to even ask questions your smile would be enough for your children to come and open up their arms and pour their heart out to you.